by Isaac George
November 7th, 2016
“The greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved, just to love and be loved.” - Eden Ahbez
We all have a desire and need to feel love for ourselves, for a significant other, and to be loved in return. This inherent need is part of just being human, and the need for acceptance, touch and empathy is a basic right of just being alive. From a spiritual or metaphysical persperctive, we’re always in relationship with something – ourselves with our feelings and thoughts, our environment, Nature, and other people. There can be growth when spending time in solitude, following a spiritual practice or using the tools of self-inquiry or meditation to look deeper within. This often is cyclical, and we eventually our curiosity and desire for connection drives us to seek the companionship.
Recently I invited people on my mailing list and on social media to participate in a two-fold survey. There were two areas I wanted feedback on: spirituality, spiritual practices and spiritual or shamanic “emergence.”, and intimate relationships and partnering, and the responses to this category were very revealing for me.
The number one challenge-issue-fear was around trust. Over 90% of the respondents cited this factor above all else, including communication, cooperation, or sexual intimacy issues. Trusting the other or one’s own motivations, even surrendering to love itself and all the vulnerability it demands is demands that we deal with our own anxieties, insecurities and woundings from past dissapointments, betrayals or abuse. Some of the respondents also cited difficulties with communication, fears of losing oneself in the other, or experiencing the polarity of abandonment or suffocation.
Our way of relating and being in relationship is predicated on the models we learned through our upbringing and the messages from our cultures. These have conditioned our behaviours in how we connect and relate at any age. Sometimes the memories in our soul, or in our parent’s unhealed events with their upbringing, brings us into contact with unhealthy patterns. Co-dependency, broken attachments with one parent or another can cause to unconsciously attract the exact opposite situations that we’re really desiring.
My direct experiences and observations during the last 10 years or so tells me that many of these patterns and beliefs, as well as our relationships themselves, are under pressure to change. There are many more people who are becoming weary with any superficiality in their relationships and love connections, and I’ve seen a profound increase in the interest in soulmate, soul-based partnerships. There’s also a growing awareness of the phenomenon of twin flames and twin souls. This is becoming an area of interest that isn’t just about finding the perfect partner – it has broader spiritual implications and potentials. Just Google these terms and conduct your own research if you’re curious.
I would also add to this discourse the language and science of astrology which I see as a big part of the changes in relationship these days.
The end of the Mayan Calendar in 2012 ushered in the first of the Uranus-Pluto Squares. Uranus entered the sign of Aries in March, 2011, the sign of the warrior and being more individualized and independent. Between June 2012 and March of 2015 there were 7]seven exact contacts through Pluto and Uranus being in a square aspect, which is Mastery through Challenge. I personally went through a deep spiritual transformation via the disintegration of a long-term partnership and a rebirth into envisioning a newer and more egalitarian partnership model and opportunity.
The bottom line here is that so many of the issues coming up within relationships now are asking us to grow and let go of many of our dysfunctional ways of being so that we can actually come in to a real and experiential equality with those we are in closest resonance with, and really explore conscious relating and mutually supportive and creative ways for helping each other to express our deepest gifts for the benefits of others, and manifest our desires and Soul Mission.
My orientation is that our spirituality, creativity, sensitivity and sexuality are all intertwined in this transformative process. Once we have grounded fully within ourselves without shame or guilt, then our vibration changes and we begin to attract those who will mirror with us in love, harmony, abundance, and yes, in complete trust. It is also the foundation for building a fair and equitable economic system, sustainable communities, and a healthy relationship with our home planet.
If you would like to explore more about my approach to attracting and cocreating conscious relationships full of trust and deeper potential for intimacy, then I would like invite you to schedule a Discovery Call with me. I’d love to assist you in letting go of past limitations and embrace a path of happiness and fulillment. Simply click here to go to the scheduling page on my website, or contact me directly via the email of phone info below.
Watch for next week’s installment where I’ll share with you some approaches and techniques for addressing the issues and challenges you may have been going through, and some ideas on how to create more “Heart and Soul” in your relationship life.
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Lunar Eclipse – March 23rd, 2016
By Isaac George
March 22nd, 2016
"In true love, happiness is not an individual matter. There is no distinction between the one who loves and the one who is loved. Your suffering is my suffering; my happiness is your happiness. Lover and beloved are one." ~Thich Naht Hanh
The bookend to the Solar Eclipse of March 8th-9th will arrive tomorrow at 12:01pm GMT. This is a partial or annular Lunar Eclipse of the Full Moon, with the Sun at 3 degrees 17 minutes of Aries, and the Moon opposite at 3 degrees 17 minutes of Libra. As I recounted in my Sunday blog, “Creative Chaos”, there are strong connections to what happened six months ago during the Solar and Lunar Eclipses of September 2015. You can read or re-read that post here. Suffice it to say that this is a fundamental reset of the “game”, and it will not only set the tone for the next six months, till the eclipses of September 2016, but quite conceivably for many months beyond that juncture. Time will tell, as it always does.
Into the Way Back Machine!
I’ve been looking back to when there were any lunations (New Moons, Full Moons) or eclipses in Aries and Libra between 2011 and 2013. I selected 2011, because Uranus entered the sign of Aries on March 11th, 2011…the day of the massive temblor and tsunami that devastated Sendai province in northeastern Japan. I found two charts, one in March of 2012 and another one also in March of 2013 that are very close to the one this is coming up this Wednesday, and is also strongly connected to the “Blood Moon” Lunar Eclipse of September 28th, 2015. In all of the four charts the Sun and Moon are tightly arranged between 2 degrees and 7 degrees of these two signs. I’ve included them with the chart for our Lunar Eclipse tomorrow at the end of this blog.
Finally, the last blast from the past to reveal was that there was a Lunar Eclipse at almost the exact same degrees of Aries-Libra as the next one this Wednesday (chart below as well). If you can reel in the years and go back to March 24th,1997, reflect on what was happening for you at that time, it may put a huge spotlight of understanding on your current situation, and provide you with the wisdom and courage to act in accordance with your Inner Truth.
"With Aries-Libra, relating is the name of the game. The challenge is how do we balance the needs or desires of the Self (Mars-Masculine) with the needs and desires of The Other (Venus-Feminine)? The seemingly eternal dance between these two forces makes for a lot of interesting poetry, music, art, fables…and tragedies."
Oh, You Again…”
Simply stated, Aries is all about the Self…”I Am.” Equally simple is that Libra is about “The Other.” There is always a relationship happening in everything…throughout the Cosmos, from the subatomic level to the galaxies themselves. Some physicists theorize that there are bonds and bleedthroughs between parallel Universes. Anyway, the Aries-Libra polarity represents the astrological version of The Lovers card in the Tarot, or the Sacred Marriage from the mystery schools. It manifests from the strictly personal level to the Universal Level. Beyond the duality of form, they are Divine Principles that emanate into all manifest forms, and yet are completely fused in the Absolute and are completely indivisible. That’s big supra-metaphysical theorising on my part, but feels right as a model.
With Aries-Libra, relating is the name of the game. The challenge is how do we balance the needs or desires of the Self (Mars-Masculine) with the needs and desires of The Other (Venus-Feminine)? The seemingly eternal dance between these two forces makes for a lot of interesting poetry, music, art, fables…and tragedies. From an evolutionary astrological perspective for the past four years we have been on a revolutionary road of dismantling and reforming our psyches through the uncomfortable crucible of intimate and challenging relationships, and all of them have been steeped in a shamanic unravelling and healing of our relationship karma. When I use the word “karma”, I’d like for you to reference that word in a new way. Think “unconscious patterns based on equally hidden vows or beliefs”. Throughout time and space, we have met ourselves again and again with many of our “other selves” and have sought to balance the eternal dance that is ultimately about realising Love as a state or condition of being.
"Perhaps the age of digital love is about to have a rude awakening, or perhaps we are awakening to the rudeness of digital socialization."
Is there a manual for this thing?
Okay, it hasn’t been easy, and it’s not a process that is culminating with Wednesday’s latest edition of Aries-Libra lunations/eclipses. I don’t have a crystal ball, or a road map, or even a factory issued user’s manual, but I do sense that this event on Wednesday may be a gateway to the final purification of eons of relationship trauma and drama. At least that’s what my instincts are saying just now. We are being given an evolutionary push to change our beliefs, and more importantly, our understanding about the purpose and potentials of human intimacy and conscious partnerships. It can be sometimes difficult to discern, but almost every challenge our species now faces, from how we care for ourselves or look after each other, to how we reinvent and reimagine our economic, political, scientific and societal structures… to how we end our mistreatment of the planet and her resources, hinges on how much we trust in ourselves and the ones we love the most.
We pump the message that we need to love ourselves, and yet we are starving for connection. In his cynical and disenfranchised tone, Elliot, the hacker in the new television drama “Mr Robot”, bemoans the current state of human love: “[…is it because we’re] spamming with our running commentary of bullshit masquerading as insight, our social media faking as intimacy?” Perhaps the age of digital love is about to have a rude awakening, or perhaps we are awakening to the rudeness of digital socialization.
"I feel that real spiritual love, one that is rooted in mutual respect and deep honesty, is extremely romantic. It gives us that sense of “coming home” that we all long for…and know we deserve."
The Rest of the Story
While the foreground is the Sun and the Moon in the Lunar Eclipse, the background cast is equally important. The day after the Eclipse Saturn will station retrograde in Sagittarius. He will move direct on August 14th at 9 degrees of Sag, and be very close to Mars at 5 Sagittarius. The upcoming Mars retrograde in Sagittarius and Scorpio is a story in and of itself, so I will save that for an April post.
On the day of the Eclipse Saturn will be in a stressful T-Square with Venus and Neptune in Pisces, and retrograde Jupiter in Virgo. I feel that having this happen just before Saturn goes into inward (retrograde) motion is a phase of reviewing and integrating the energies and lessons of all the previous eclipses, and indeed, or all the Aries-Libra contacts of the past four years. It’s a time for introspection, and it won’t work to be doing hard-nosed analysing (Virgo) about matters of the heart and soul. The Venus-Neptune conjunction will be the main energy here…asking us to be compassionate and forgiving, and to also re-image a Higher aspect of romantic and intimate Love. I use the word romance not in a story-book way, but in a way to celebrate the “lift” that we experience with romantic love. I feel that real spiritual love, one that is rooted in mutual respect and deep honesty, is extremely romantic. It gives us that sense of “coming home” that we all long for…and know we deserve. I highly recommend this amazing video clip to get a better feel for what my poor words are trying to express. True Love and the Four Elements of Love – Thich Nhat Hanh. The first seven minutes carries the nugget of the message.
Mars in Sagittarius will be trine the Sun and is sextile to the Moon. This adds a strong but egalitarian tone of asking that we tell the Truth…to ourselves and whomever we’re currently partnered with. Even if we are not with a significant other, our intention towards emanating compassion and love to those we are in connection with, in whatever form, will still have a potent effect. Ending conflict both from within and towards others is the idea. Mercury will be conjoined to the Sun as well, so there may be an impulsiveness to ask questions in a very rapid-fire style, like a special interrogator questioning a suspect in a crime. Uncomfortable but necessary truths may suddenly come to light. The juxtaposition between Mars and Mercury will be daunting, and a bit paradoxical. You may be thinking, "Do I stick to the hard facts only, or do I allow leeway for compassionate understanding?" I suppose the answer to that will depend on what type of information is unearthed. If there is no longer any resonance with your current situation, then this eclipse may signal that it’s time to move on and open to a higher more resonant partnership that is based on true love, transparency and equality.
The asteroid goddess Juno is retrograde (inverted) in Scorpio, and will be in a harmonious flow with Venus and Neptune. The need for passion within our partnering is denoted by this placement. Juno typically is associated with the traditions of marriage, but in Scorpio, marriage is elevated to a sacrament through passion and sexuality. There can be no true intimacy without being naked in body and soul to the Beloved. This is soul Tantra, and is something we all possess, but has been civilised out of us and forgotten. Tantric practices were invented to reawaken us to the primal truth that is in the divine nature within our bodily forms. Ecstasy is a natural state that exists when we are in harmony with Nature, with the Goddess.
"We all deserve the love that we give away, and the love that we receive. The union of hearts will be a potent power for changing the course of the future. Give freely…it all comes back to you in some way, and at some time."
The Next Steps
Between now and the next set of eclipses in September I feel that it will be a time of greater movement and greater clarity in our understanding of ourselves, of others and what our hearts and souls truly desire to create in this world. Everything is connected, and the arena of our interpersonal relationships echoes throughout the human and planetary construct. If we truly wish to have a different future, then the ghosts of our past must be confronted and lovingly and empathically embraced. We cannot cure prior wounding without acknowledging our held emotions and deep longings. The relationship issues we had with our parents are reflections of all of our previous bonding experiences with each other as lovers, spouses, siblings, parents or even just workmates and friends. To change the story of our personal and collective past is to alter the future.
We have the potential to live the life of our dreams. I suggest that those dreams include others in many ways. To balance our needs with the greater needs of our entire species is the way forward. Everyone has a right to clean water, good food, warm shelter, comfortable clothing and personal safety. And everyone needs closeness, affection, recognition and love. Dr. Dean Ornish’s book, “Love and Survival” is a wonderful testament to the power of connection and what it means to be fully human. I recommend it to you as one of many potential guides to how we can imagine and create new and sacred ways of relationship, ways that don’t cause us to fall back into martyrdom or self-effacement. More importantly, we can end the cycle of heartache and heartbreak that is at the core of our spiritual wounding…the false sense that we are separate from our Source, and from each other.
Move forward into the sacred marriage with your inner Beloved and invite that Beloved into your purpose for being here on this planet at this time. Let your deepest dreams and yearnings be expressed. Begin with yourself, then with your beloved, then in communion with others of your “tribe”, then in wider community. It grows exponentially when we choose love, collaboration and cooperation.
We all deserve the love that we give away, and the love that we receive. The union of hearts will be a potent power for changing the course of the future. Give freely…it all comes back to you in some way, and at some time.
I specialize in mentoring and coaching for singles and couples in the arenas of relationship and self care. I love to work with people and give them the tools they most need to navigate these times and to create more satisfying experiences in their lives. For more information and to make an appointment for a FREE Discovery call, just click here.
(Authenticity is the New Currency)
By Isaac George
Feb. 15th, 2016
“Be yourself. Everyone else already exists.” - Unknown
What does authenticity mean to you? Do you endeavour to just be yourself in your business or personal life? Or do you struggle with an inner and outer persona, and strategize how you wish to appear in your work or career? Do you hide how you really feel because of what others might think?
“For me the word authenticity only has real weight if a person is fully in touch with their feelings. To own one’s feelings and to show them fearlessly to me is a sign of emotional maturity. Sometimes we’re up, sometimes we’re down.”
Of late I’ve been examining the business world, and especially what could be termed “soul-based” or spiritual/intuitive coaching. I do really need to do this as I have been rebranding my own work in that vein. One of my inspirations for this was reading about the life experience of a successful coach in America who I had the pleasure of working with briefly. What was instantly refreshing and different about him is that he revealed a bit of his history…who he had been and how he moved to where he is now. He did this without any sense of embarrassment. In terms of success, this guy had it clicking on all cylinders during the first half of 2015. Then early last summer, the wheels came off of the bus. He had a series of misfortunes and setbacks that would have made anyone question their vision and life’s direction. Instead of hiding behind a façade of “everything’s fabulous”, he sent out a newsletter recounting his challenges and what he was learning through them. No sugar coating, no lies. It was a humbling and inspirational demonstration of trust and vulnerability. Integrity was written all over this guy.
For me the word authenticity only has real weight if a person is fully in touch with their feelings. To own one’s feelings and to show them fearlessly to me is a sign of emotional maturity. Sometimes we’re up, sometimes we’re down. I read somewhere recently that there is some research now showing that acting “as if” or putting on a performance for others can have a negative cumulative effect on one’s own well-being and physical health. The striving for perfection, or even excellence, can cut us off from many things. I feel that we avoid showing up 100% because our egos have been trained and conditioned so thoroughly in the twin shackles of shame and embarrassment.
“Showing up and being who you are, no matter which side of the bed you clambered out of this morning, is how people will instinctively know that you are trustworthy. You don’t have to “sell” it to another, because your truth will permeate whatever you think, say or do. It becomes self-evident."
We often hear that the world of business is about building relationships. If that’s true, why reserve only our “game face” in our business dealings? Is that authenticity? No, not really. It’s the same theatre we see in political campaigns and corporate public relations media campaigns. Both rely on certain types of psychology to manipulate the public into believing something, then doing almost the exact opposite of the stated purpose. Fraud is epidemic. Sound bites and pretty images have a hypnotic effect. But if you are ignorant of the tools employed, then you are a target. I feel it’s time to stop playing games.
Showing up and being who you are, no matter which side of the bed you clambered out of this morning, is how people will instinctively know that you are trustworthy. You don’t have to “sell” it to another, because your truth will permeate whatever you think, say or do. It becomes self-evident. Of course it IS essential that you do as you say you will do! Your words and actions must agree in order to be experienced as real and authentic. To that end it is very important that we can never over-promise or over-commit…or that will cost us in numerous ways. Conversely, honesty and authenticity is magnetic!
When we were kids (no matter in which lifetime you care to think of) our learned behaviours were pretty much dictated by the “shoulds” or “thou shalt nots” that we learned in our primary relating with our parents. Whether we were imprinted with their religious ideas or not, we looked up at them as being gods or goddesses. Almost without exception we perceived that our very survival depended on them! Of course when we were indoctrinated into some religious form, we also projected our perfected ideal of a paternal or maternal God onto our fragile and flawed parents, and when they couldn’t stack up to that image because they let us down, it created confusion and deep disappointment.
"To find the source of your authenticity and your soul, your mission will be to find your nugget, your seed; you’re absolute true nature."
The work of becoming authentic will be found to rest squarely on realizing the combination of our mystical and human natures, the divine and the mundane…our very personal mythos. We are simultaneously a unique expression of the One Love that is the Source of All, and we’re also connected with everyone and everything else. Why hide it? Why hide from it? To find the source of your authenticity and your soul, your mission will be to find your nugget, your seed; you’re absolute true nature. Our core beliefs about the nature and purpose of “business as usual” (busyness as usual) will may have to also change dramatically, if we are to avert social and ecological apocalypse.
"This is the nature of how consciousness works. Trust and love must begin in one’s own personal sphere, and then translates into our intimate partnerships, families, communities, and our business relationships."
The new currency is authenticity. The coming way of being, whether personally or in business is to embrace the power inherent in our vulnerability. Trust will be something that will not have to be spoken, because each person will be more in tune with their true natures. This is the nature of how consciousness works. Trust and love must begin in one’s own personal sphere, and then translates into our intimate partnerships, families, communities, and our business relationships. All of our relationships will thrive because of cooperation with one another, instead of competition.
Love and authenticity are values that must inform all other values. Embrace your truth, and be fearless in being who you are and a journey of magic and bliss will open up to you, and in every life you touch.
Isaac George, Intuitive Mentor – Coach
for spiritual awakening, conscious relationships and sexuality and evolutionary astrology
Video- See below:
"The Real Me": The Who (From Quadraphenia at Royal Albert Hall)
Dr. Brene’ Brown’s “The Power of Vulnerability”:
Dr. Brene’ Brown’s “Listening to Shame”:
Suppressing Emotions – New York Times:
Held Emotions Can Kill:
The Total/Lunar/Super/Blood Eclipse
by Isaac George
27 September 2015
The only constant is change. And the more things change, the more they stay the same. Ahh, the Mystery of the Paradox. Life will continue beyond this Full Moon/ Lunar Eclipse/Blood Moon/Harvest Moon, and there will still be unfinished business to attend to over the next six months…or longer. Depending on your perceptions and situation that may sound like welcome or unwelcome news. However, the bottom line as I feel it is this is just another alarm clock ringing to wake us all up. The ringing of the village church bell did the same for folks long before there were clocks, and in the Far East it might have been the drone of Tibetan trumpets. Nonetheless, the call to awaken is happening.
I liken an eclipse to the ringing of large bell, and the tone and harmonics takes a while to die away. There will be another striking of that large celestial bell next March, which could be considered a future bookmark to the one coming up tomorrow in the U. S., and early Monday morning in Asia and Europe. A bookend holds a book up. A bookmark holds a place for you in the book where you've finished a section or chapter, and you intend to return to it at a later time. A completed cycle is like a pair of bookends holding up the book or books. The real bookend event is the upcoming end of the Nodes of the Moon traveling through Libra and Aries. There's a beginning, in this case March 20th-22nd of 2014, and there's moment of crossing the finish line, which will occur around October 10th, 2015, when they move into Virgo and Pisces. The celestial bookmark moment will be with this Total Lunar Eclipse, and the next one will be the Annular (Partial) Lunar Eclipse on March 23rd, 2016. (See attached charts below)
Much has already been written about this "Blood Moon" so I won't revisit the points already made by many very good fellow astrologers. I certainly have stepped back a bit about this one being the big Ending of everything that has transpired in our relationships over the past 18 to 24 months. I also don't buy into any apocalyptic scenarios.
Some are speculating that it may have something to do with Ascension and Wave X. There is an increase of anomalous events and experiences, of that there is no question. I've had missing time, even a missing day, and my visual and auditory senses are shifting and changing. Perhaps Wave X has come, maybe gone, or is out to lunch. Hard to speculate whether this or that date or event is the Big Deal. Personally, I'm not too keen any longer on there ever being such a thing. It's a process, and even though it feels like acceleration, it is still an evolutionary process. At least that's the way it appears and feels to our filters.
In 1997 I was an avid listener of the Art Bell syndicated radio show "Dreamland" in the United States. He penned a book with another writer called "The Quickening", and many predictions about ascension and mass awakenings were foretold for the years 2000 and 2001. What we got instead was a fizzle for the supposed Y2K "millennium bug", followed by the 9/11 attacks, and then the War on Terror. Astrologers were watching and reading other signs of the times before this, and the upcoming Saturn - Pluto opposition clearly indicated that the "party like its 1999" (Prince) was not going to continue into the next decade. We are also still currently under the influence of the Uranus-Pluto cycle, and this Eclipse transpires with four planets in retrograde: Neptune, Chiron, Mercury and Uranus. This tends to color the game a bit, especially with Mercury in Libra. That "other" event, the End of the Mayan calendar in December 2012, may actually be evident in the breakdowns (and some breakups) happening. So perhaps that was the real deal...and it'll just take a long time to unravel. I feel that what this Eclipse challenges us about is to foster cooperation and partnering and and to consider it from a whole new level of Consciousness. Saturn and Pluto are direct, and for the time being Saturn is in the "too early" degrees to make much of a dent in the current energies. He'll be more of a factor by early December.
In the meantime, what can we do with this opportunity? The Sun and Moon are at 4 degrees of Libra and Aries, and yes, they are very close to the North and South Nodes of the Moon, which are at the Super Galactic Center Zero Degree, or World Axis degree. But close only counts in horseshoes, and I defer to the new Eclipse season in March 2016 as the possible final reckoning for what we've been experiencing thus far this year and in 2014. My mind wants to parrot what many others have been saying, as in whatever was happening with you and any significant "others" during the transit of the Nodes in Aries -Libra (and the Venus Retrograde this past summer) then that's it, done and dusted, kiss it all bye-bye. Hmmm… not so fast.
We are human beings. We have a need to relate. We are dependent upon each other as we are for sunlight, water, an oxygen rich atmosphere and good topsoil. Yes, we love our independence and freedom, but without anyone to share it with, we would start to feel like the character Tom Hanks played in the movie Cast Away. His only friend was a volleyball he named Wilson. What I feel this Eclipse is about is a call to reassess our relationship to Human Relationships (and lots more!). Too often we reject the unknown for the known, thinking it's the more practical or pragmatic route. Sometimes we go to an extreme in the other direction, and become lost in the "Other", or in the ideal of Love. Somewhere in the middle there may be a sweet spot, a place where magic and romance can meet practicality and sustainability. Goodness knows that we still have a lot of clean-up work to do around the baggage of hurt we share individually and collectively in affairs of the heart. We are told not to lose our head in love and relationships, but too often that is exactly what needs to happen, because all of our stories and associated emotions are bound up into one big protective ego dance.
A week ago I stumbled across this image on Facebook that I felt initially attracted to, perhaps because of a recent personal experience with someone I feel very close to. Inside my head, I could hear my wounded little not-self egging me on, saying "yeah, so and so has the wrong heart…just blow that off!" When I looked at again I realized what I was engaged in, and immediately saw that the image and its message was like someone else's pain trying to divide my love for this person and turn it into a judgmental hate. I've been seeing a lot of these types of messages lately, and they're dressed up to sound like they are encouraging our sovereignty and designed to get us out of victim consciousness. However I feel that there is message underneath, trying to drive wedges between people by creating mistrust and fear. It certainly plays well to our old wounds and hurts...creating reactions instead of healing. Perhaps we are just all trying too hard to be strong all the time, and now it's being exploited. By who or what isn't the point here, so I'll leave that for the Reader to ponder for now. When I finally commented on this image in the Facebook post, I wrote: "There are no wrong hearts... only confused ones. And they ache to be loved too."
As I was writing this blog, I also stumbled on to this article about our personal and interpersonal need to belong, to connect. According to the author, Bethany Webster, our primary need is to feel connected and attached to others. Bonding is the fabric that is so important in many mammalian societies. Dolphins are one example, and Bonobo chimps are another. Our drive to individuate is normal and healthy, but there are caveats. The so-called "war" between the sexes is one of the wedges that preys on our separation anxieties…separation from Source, from our birth mother, from Nature, and from each other. Disconnection, or the strategy of divide and conquer, is at the heart of most religions (us versus "them") and political systems (liberals versus conservatives). Our penchant for labels and naming has landed us in branding hell, and now we sense that all is not as it was intended to be. Click to read the full article: http://womboflight.com/2015/09/25/raw-open-and-real-moving-from-traumatic-aloneness-to-universal-oneness/
What all this has to do with the Eclipse tonight/tomorrow, and the road ahead, is that I feel that our need for connection and our need for honoring and cultivating new beliefs and behaviors in our relationships is inexorably bound up with the call to pay attention to the much bigger issues facing us as a species. Is our economic model sustainable, and will we avert ecocide in time? Can we cast aside enough of our isolationist and egocentric tendencies that we come to actually care for the strangers in our midst? This may be what part of the Syrian refugee crisis is about. One thing feels certain…we only are given a certain amount of time to align in collaboration with the Planetary Evolutionary (and Cosmic) impulse before higher laws and powers overtake us and force changes necessary for planetary survival. Note that I don't necessarily include us in that prerogative, but I heartily enjoin us to consider what will happen if we choose to continue as we have been. The Chinese have a saying - "if you don't change your direction, you'll end up where you're headed." Or, something like that.
The microcosm and the Macrocosm are infinitely linked…as within, so without, and as above, so below. How we respond to our current individual challenges and the challenges in our relationships, and our response to the global questions I stated above will determine our individual and collective journey ahead. This Eclipse is one of the bookmarks. Yes, some relationships may have to end in order for a change of belief to occur - or a change of belief must occur in order that the right people can line up to create a new paradigm on many levels.
The change of the Nodal Signs is one of the bookends. The next chapter will be read and hopefully understood by next March. We have the time just now, but do we have the trust, will courage and love to do what is necessary? We don't need to trash the people that we've loved or let go of people we care about with rancour or in a vengeful way. What we desperately need though is to let go of the beliefs, wounds, attitudes and suspicions that poison our perceptions and erode the Love that we are, and that gave birth to our existence. Whatever this Eclipse may mean to you, it certainly represents another clearing being made in order for us to claim the opportunities that lie ahead. Knowing is the science of faith, and with Saturn in Sagittarius for the next few years, our faith and beliefs will be tested.
Joy and love are the main ingredients for successfully embracing the healing being offered in these times. It will be the joy of letting go of what no longer serves while loving ALL of you, no matter what you think about your stuff. That goes double about how you perceive the reflections of all the other souls around you. Be gentle with them, and with yourself because Sun in Libra is the ultimate balancing act.
And remember…don't look down!
With love, Isaac
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For your listening enjoyment <3
by Isaac George
September 21st, 2013
Excerpt from recent session with a male client…
“Funny how you never hear the word ‘misandry’ anymore. It’s the opposite of misogyny. I consider myself pretty educated, but I’d never heard of it before. To me, that just shows how lopsided the psychology [of men and women’s issues] has become. You see it [misogyny] in movies, social media, everywhere, and I’m not saying it doesn’t exist, but there’s a whole other side of the coin, and that couldn’t be going on unless there was somebody else hitting the ball back…you know, like a tennis match, right? That’s kind of crazy. I look at Facebook, social media and things like that and I have yet to see in all this New Age hyperbole flying around everywhere, any man taking a picture and posting it online and being referred to as a ‘god’. Not every woman who rolls out of bed with bedhead and does a 'selfie' in the mirror is a goddess, but there’s no guy out there who can stand up there on that platform with her.”
Over the past five months I’ve been going through a huge metamorphosis about women and relationships. It feels like every wound, every insecurity and every mistake or wrong thought, word or deed that related to the opposite gender was coming up in a grinding and relentless way. Grit and grace, as they say, but you don’t get the grace till the grit is through. When I published the blog “The Shame Virus” in mid-April, that should have been a tipoff. However, that wouldn’t have prepared my personality for what has transpired later on, from just before my birthday in late June until a few days ago. In the past four or five weeks, I have had a considerable number of clients, friends reflect that they too were under these same pressures. And ever since September 11th-12th, an upwelling of anger, rage and frustration seems to have erupted through many women.
The main themes of these times are about power, autonomy, the feminine, the masculine, the physical, the spiritual, trust and withholding, fear and love. For my own journey, many of my former relationships began showing up like the ghosts of Christmas past…only the were represented in the present by other real people in the environment. The memories were there too…raw and uncomfortable. Being strongly attracted to women, and putting them on pedestals for their beauty and perfection. Not being ‘good enough’ for this or that woman. Being rejected and betrayed by women, or in some cases, attacked (by women, and sometimes men) for what was perceived as part of me being ‘inappropriate’ (guess which part?). Not always sure whether I could entrust my partner with my secrets, which I thought were probably too weird or shameful to disclose…like being attracted to other women whilst in the relationship, and not accepting that I just love women in general, and that I am naturally and instinctively more attuned to the feminine. I wasn't even sure if I could trust women…sensing that at any moment I would become old news.
In my late teens and beyond, girls and women came to me with their problems, confiding in me, telling me truths that they were afraid to share with their partners. I felt honoured to be there to support and comfort, and whatever I offered in the way of friendly advice was always appreciated. However, some of the stories I heard didn’t do much to soften my opinions about how my own gender (for the most part) treated the feminine pretty badly.
As a child, I just didn’t like competitive sports or the bullying and bravado that my male classmates were into. I loved to be in nature and spent most of my free time in solitude within its bosom, and so my love for the feminine grew very strong from my earliest memory. When I was older, I was a perfect gentleman, and opened the doors and paid for the dates. I respected and desired the feminine. I trusted in it implicitly. The only male energy I could really be around were the oddballs and outcasts – mostly comrades who were into music, drugs, Tibetan Buddhism, spiritualism and science fiction books. They were also questioning reality and looking for answers of either a spiritual or existential variety. The women I was attracted to were also artists or a bit outside ‘normal’ society. To live on the borderlands was preferable to normal society. After all, Nixon was in office, and the Vietnam War raged on.
Over the next two and half decades, I searched for myself, my career path, and the ideal partner for the ideal marriage, or if not that, at least a superb live-in partner. Part of my idealism around women was that I felt strongly that once I found ‘the One’, then we would change the world together. Now here, on the other side of so many more changes and the dropping away of outworn patterns of belief, I see that who I was looking for was there inside of me. Ever since the kundalini awakening in 1994, we’re still getting acquainted! That profound and momentous spiritual emergence was partially precipitated by a powerful female, and when I looked backwards at my life path, I saw how pivotal the presence of women and the Divine Feminine was in my journey! After that turning point, I re-membered my Tantric and Goddess connections from other lifetimes and embraced some of the New Age philosophies rampant at the time about the men should now serving to bring the Divine Feminine back into the world. The message was that it was this movement that would change the course of humanity and the Planet after the turn of the Millennium in 2000.
So, here we are, fully thirteen years later, and what a bumpy ride it’s been since the beginning of this century. I don’t need to provide a list of all that has transpired since then, but I do encourage you to look at yourself, and look around at this world, and ask yourself some very important questions…
Are happy with yourself?
Are you happy about men/women?
Are you happy about your own gender?
Are you happy in your relationship(s) / partnership(s)?
Are you fulfilled creatively?
Are you fulfilled sexually?
Do you see that the world has become fundamentally a better place since the advent of New Age/Neo-Tantric and New Thought philosophies?
Are you friendly with all of your emotions, or do you label some emotions as ‘bad’ or ‘dangerous’?
Is your spiritual path working for you?
Are you worried about the future?
Do you feel helpless or powerless to change any of the above?
This is just a short list, and you could probably add to it. The point of this is to develop a profound and honest practice of self-disclosure. We are all susceptible to the self-delusory tendency to see ourselves and the world as we want them to be, not as it really is. I guarantee that in the beginning, you will not like what you find.
So today, after a five month long ‘dark night of the Soul’ we are emerging into a new space. For me personally, it is a space filled with a new awareness about the genders and the gender wars. As the title of this essay suggests, the longest war on Earth has been between male and female. The fires of purification around the issues of power in the realm of human relationships, whether they be male-female, female-female, or male to male, are now burning brightly. This brightness is lighting the way for the emergence of the true sacred masculine.
Men everywhere are under pressure, and yet our focus seems to be continuously drawn to the sanctity and safety of women. The recent conviction and sentencing to death of four men in India for the brutal rape and killing of a young woman there is held up as ‘doing something’ about men’s disregard for respecting women and guaranteeing their safety. There is only retribution, and no time spent trying to understand how and where these tragedies are birthed from.
Men are committing suicide in greater numbers than ever before every day, whether they be poor farmers in India or Africa, or U.S. and U.K. veterans from the ‘War on Terror’ being waged globally…not just in Iraq and Afghanistan. Meanwhile, other men who run the banks and corporations, or lead from positions of political power, do nothing to stem the rise of environmental and financial terrorism against both men and women. My partner is a Tantric therapist, and reports that many of her male clients mirror the feelings that my client expressed at the beginning of this essay. These men suffer from erectile dysfunction, low self-esteem, worry that they cannot please their wives, partners or lovers, drink too much, eat too much, smoke too much, and are chronic workaholics. And yet, when they want simple acknowledgment, pleasure and a reflection of compassion from women, they are given the impression that there still has not been enough atonement for all the crimes that their gender has perpetrated against women over the centuries. The guilt is killing men, and women’s shame around their sexual and emotional power is distorting their natural balance.
We portray our genders as either victim or victimizer. We completely mis-remember that we are both without gender when we are not ‘here’ in this human experience. I am not saying that being gendered is unspiritual. That is of the domain of religions and power-mad gurus that tell you that sex and the human condition aren’t quite clean and perfect enough. Our power to project our insecurities and judgments on each other should be a signal to us to examine what we are doing to harm each other, rather than to help each other…to deeply question what it is that causes this to happen over and over again…for thousands of years. How did it ever come to this?
I cannot answer that question in a single essay. I only intend to bring awareness to how important it is to welcome the Sacred Masculine into the equation of Life. There is an agenda to disempower and suppress the power of the fully-healed and emancipated man. Men are expected to be as rich as Donald Trump, as good looking as George Clooney or Thor, be as smart and as witty as Jon Stewart, be a lovable clown like Steve Carell, and also be the perfect Tantric lover who has unlimited stamina while remaining emotionally present and gentle. Expectations are running a bit high, and are a bit lacking in reciprocity. Somehow, we all are looking to get something from each other, and have a damned difficult time in allowing ourselves to receive from each other. Unconditional Love is not something we ‘do’…it is the allowing of receiving to happen, as much as the giving to be welcomed. There is no opposite to Love without Conditions…or else it isn’t Love at all.
Yes, the masculine is under pressure in many other ways. Sperm counts are falling like rocks out of the sky while prostate cancer, heart disease, and sexual dysfunction are on the rise. Most men are addicted to sports events as an acceptable outlet for male aggression, while fuelling it with unhealthy foods and alcohol. Numbed out by 200 channels of television, endless false image brainwashing through media, trainloads of testosterone – destroying chemicals in the food, food packaging and water, and the male hormone disruption brought about by the growing and increasingly intense EMF radiation threat, they either willingly or unwittingly have come to believe that they don’t have any right or ability to stand up for themselves, or to challenge the corrupt power structures masquerading as legitimate authority that seeks to confound and disempower both genders. We are told repeatedly, even by our New Age ‘masters’, “accept things as they are…no use getting your knickers in a twist. Be calm, meditate, don’t give in to anger…that leads to the Dark Side!” This is the covert suppression of the sacred masculine. We must become the ‘safe’ sex.
Unless women are willing to sincerely look deeply into their own dark feminine recesses, they will continue projecting their sense of powerlessness onto the masculine, and stay ignorant of their own inner masculine strength. Unless men fully accept their own dark unhealed masculine, they cannot share space or power with their inner feminine, or with external women. We are here to realize our inherent equality, beyond the labels of male and female. To cooperate with each other is the only sane way forward out of the corruption that is so evident all around us. The Divine Feminine without the Divine Masculine will not be effectual in responding to and acting on the behalf of planetary and human survival. Speaking truth is one thing. Living it is the only thing that makes a real difference.
It may be time to stop the search for Divine Union as some idealistic ‘spiritual’ state of affairs, and even drop the projective labels of ‘god-goddess’ or ‘Shiva-Shakti’. Perhaps we have all been manipulated by false dreams and many misunderstood myths, with predictable programmed results ensuring that men and women remain estranged from each other. An example of how similar we may actually be on many levels, is recounted in a recent book that overturns many assumptions about human female sexuality. Entitled “What Do Women Want”, it in many ways upends and contradicts our cherished pets about how different the two genders are in the sexual arena. When it was released, feminists trashed it immediately, just because the person who compiled the case studies was a man. No wonder the poison of mistrust clouds our perceptions, and dulls our ears from really hearing each other’s pain and desires.
We can begin to change that. We all want to be loved and accepted. It will require courage, tact and a willingness to communicate. It will demand that all of us discover the truth of our ancient enmity, and what caused it in the first place. It will require action, not just reflection and ritual. It will require that men and women to first seek to make peace with their inner masculine and feminine, while choosing to listen to each other with compassion. In this will the true Sacred Marriage come into being.
War is over…if you want it. (John Lennon)
Acknowledgments and resources:
Thanks to my client for granting permission to use the above quote from his session.
To read an excerpt and brief review of the book from the Guardian UK website on “What Do Women Want?” by Daniel Bergner, just click here.
Also recommend “Sex at Dawn” (I’ve not received my copy yet, so you’re on your own as to whether it appeals to you.)
My deepest gratitude to my partner Lynn Paterson for her reflections and input for this essay, and for her patience and steadfast love.
And my sincerest gratitude to all of my teachers…the female friends, lovers and partners I’ve known in the past and the present…and those I’ve yet to meet (again).
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