Part 3 in a 5 part series on Conscious Soul-Based Relationships. By Isaac George, November 25th, 2016
"Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard & valued; when they can give & receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance & strength from the relationship" – Bréne Brown
The challenges of relating all come down to how we talk to each other, and how we listen. Or don’t listen. When we are too busy projecting our own fears (prior wounding) onto another, we’re scarcely able to hear what they’re trying to communicate to us. It may be their own fears or projections, but if we’re too busy reacting we cannot hope to respond, much less feel a connection to them. All too often we get on to a merry-go-round of playing the Blame Game, and end up wondering why we can’t ever get a relationship to work, or why love is so hard to keep around.
The simple truth is this: we don’t know what we don’t know, and it is only through our willingness to become vulnerable that we may discover exactly all those things in us that we thought were “wrong” and unacceptable. Once we begin to completely love and accept all that is within us, then the reactivity to what another says or does lessens, and we begin to see them clearly, and love can then lead the way.
Our interpersonal relating forms the basis of so much in the human community. It influences our family dynamics directly, and then manifests within our established cultures and attitudes, and finally dictates how we react or respond politically on a national and global level. Years ago when I was channelling, a series of recordings were made that spoke directly to the perceived split between men and women. The “gender wars” have been around a long time, and we’ve suffered the consequences of this in many ways. War itself is a failure to communicate and understand. At this juncture in history it is now imperative we learn to relate from a more conscious level, as our very survival may depend on it.
My personal journey in intimate connections and partnerships has brought me to a place in which I see the power in relating as honestly and transparently. It starts at home, with getting honest and real about our own “stuff” and the real task of reparenting our inner child. The dramas with one or both primary parents during our formative years isn’t the whole story though. My research shows that these interactions are only replays of traumatic experiences and our reactions to them at the soul level from other lifetimes here and perhaps even on other worlds.
Heart Centered Relating is something that I have developed to assist others to stepping into a more empowered dialogue with their own Soul and inner child, so that they can navigate the powerful awakening processes currently unfolding in our world. The inner child is our childlike aspect. It includes all that we learned and experienced as children, before puberty. This inner child is a semi-independent entity subordinate to the waking conscious mind, and it encompasses the most basic needs we have. One of these needs is for security and safety. Another might be the need for approval and love. Once the inner child wounds or misunderstandings are recognized and transformed through self-inquiry and self-compassion, and the primary relationship with Self is secure, a partnership of a higher calibre can be attracted to oneself and co-created to further our soul’s desire for a deeper union and growth with, and through another.
There are no perfect partners, nor perfect relationships. However, I feel Love itself is perfection, and we are being called to cooperate with Love. We are invited to be co-conspirators in reshaping our understanding of our own humanity and divine nature, so that we may envision and create the life experiences we deeply desire to have, and to see a world that is capable of living in harmony.
If you’d like to know more about how my Heart and Soul Relationship Coaching can help you to create and experience the true love you’ve always longed for, I will also be hosting an absolutely free webinar in early December that will address a lot more in this area. Its focus will be for single women and the Three Common Mistakes that keep them from finding their true love. Everyone is welcome to join me for an hour sharing about one of the most beautiful and inspiring parts of my spiritual journey and I'm passionate about sharing it.
Part 4 in this series will be coming along shortly, so please watch for it!
To book an advance Discovery Call just click here and pick a date and time that suits best. I live in the UK and my time zone is GMT. To contact me directly please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
by Isaac George
November 7th, 2016
“The greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved, just to love and be loved.” - Eden Ahbez
We all have a desire and need to feel love for ourselves, for a significant other, and to be loved in return. This inherent need is part of just being human, and the need for acceptance, touch and empathy is a basic right of just being alive. From a spiritual or metaphysical persperctive, we’re always in relationship with something – ourselves with our feelings and thoughts, our environment, Nature, and other people. There can be growth when spending time in solitude, following a spiritual practice or using the tools of self-inquiry or meditation to look deeper within. This often is cyclical, and we eventually our curiosity and desire for connection drives us to seek the companionship.
Recently I invited people on my mailing list and on social media to participate in a two-fold survey. There were two areas I wanted feedback on: spirituality, spiritual practices and spiritual or shamanic “emergence.”, and intimate relationships and partnering, and the responses to this category were very revealing for me.
The number one challenge-issue-fear was around trust. Over 90% of the respondents cited this factor above all else, including communication, cooperation, or sexual intimacy issues. Trusting the other or one’s own motivations, even surrendering to love itself and all the vulnerability it demands is demands that we deal with our own anxieties, insecurities and woundings from past dissapointments, betrayals or abuse. Some of the respondents also cited difficulties with communication, fears of losing oneself in the other, or experiencing the polarity of abandonment or suffocation.
Our way of relating and being in relationship is predicated on the models we learned through our upbringing and the messages from our cultures. These have conditioned our behaviours in how we connect and relate at any age. Sometimes the memories in our soul, or in our parent’s unhealed events with their upbringing, brings us into contact with unhealthy patterns. Co-dependency, broken attachments with one parent or another can cause to unconsciously attract the exact opposite situations that we’re really desiring.
My direct experiences and observations during the last 10 years or so tells me that many of these patterns and beliefs, as well as our relationships themselves, are under pressure to change. There are many more people who are becoming weary with any superficiality in their relationships and love connections, and I’ve seen a profound increase in the interest in soulmate, soul-based partnerships. There’s also a growing awareness of the phenomenon of twin flames and twin souls. This is becoming an area of interest that isn’t just about finding the perfect partner – it has broader spiritual implications and potentials. Just Google these terms and conduct your own research if you’re curious.
I would also add to this discourse the language and science of astrology which I see as a big part of the changes in relationship these days.
The end of the Mayan Calendar in 2012 ushered in the first of the Uranus-Pluto Squares. Uranus entered the sign of Aries in March, 2011, the sign of the warrior and being more individualized and independent. Between June 2012 and March of 2015 there were 7]seven exact contacts through Pluto and Uranus being in a square aspect, which is Mastery through Challenge. I personally went through a deep spiritual transformation via the disintegration of a long-term partnership and a rebirth into envisioning a newer and more egalitarian partnership model and opportunity.
The bottom line here is that so many of the issues coming up within relationships now are asking us to grow and let go of many of our dysfunctional ways of being so that we can actually come in to a real and experiential equality with those we are in closest resonance with, and really explore conscious relating and mutually supportive and creative ways for helping each other to express our deepest gifts for the benefits of others, and manifest our desires and Soul Mission.
My orientation is that our spirituality, creativity, sensitivity and sexuality are all intertwined in this transformative process. Once we have grounded fully within ourselves without shame or guilt, then our vibration changes and we begin to attract those who will mirror with us in love, harmony, abundance, and yes, in complete trust. It is also the foundation for building a fair and equitable economic system, sustainable communities, and a healthy relationship with our home planet.
If you would like to explore more about my approach to attracting and cocreating conscious relationships full of trust and deeper potential for intimacy, then I would like invite you to schedule a Discovery Call with me. I’d love to assist you in letting go of past limitations and embrace a path of happiness and fulillment. Simply click here to go to the scheduling page on my website, or contact me directly via the email of phone info below.
Watch for next week’s installment where I’ll share with you some approaches and techniques for addressing the issues and challenges you may have been going through, and some ideas on how to create more “Heart and Soul” in your relationship life.
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