Part 3 in a 5 part series on Conscious Soul-Based Relationships. By Isaac George, November 25th, 2016
"Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard & valued; when they can give & receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance & strength from the relationship" – Bréne Brown
The challenges of relating all come down to how we talk to each other, and how we listen. Or don’t listen. When we are too busy projecting our own fears (prior wounding) onto another, we’re scarcely able to hear what they’re trying to communicate to us. It may be their own fears or projections, but if we’re too busy reacting we cannot hope to respond, much less feel a connection to them. All too often we get on to a merry-go-round of playing the Blame Game, and end up wondering why we can’t ever get a relationship to work, or why love is so hard to keep around.
The simple truth is this: we don’t know what we don’t know, and it is only through our willingness to become vulnerable that we may discover exactly all those things in us that we thought were “wrong” and unacceptable. Once we begin to completely love and accept all that is within us, then the reactivity to what another says or does lessens, and we begin to see them clearly, and love can then lead the way.
Our interpersonal relating forms the basis of so much in the human community. It influences our family dynamics directly, and then manifests within our established cultures and attitudes, and finally dictates how we react or respond politically on a national and global level. Years ago when I was channelling, a series of recordings were made that spoke directly to the perceived split between men and women. The “gender wars” have been around a long time, and we’ve suffered the consequences of this in many ways. War itself is a failure to communicate and understand. At this juncture in history it is now imperative we learn to relate from a more conscious level, as our very survival may depend on it.
My personal journey in intimate connections and partnerships has brought me to a place in which I see the power in relating as honestly and transparently. It starts at home, with getting honest and real about our own “stuff” and the real task of reparenting our inner child. The dramas with one or both primary parents during our formative years isn’t the whole story though. My research shows that these interactions are only replays of traumatic experiences and our reactions to them at the soul level from other lifetimes here and perhaps even on other worlds.
Heart Centered Relating is something that I have developed to assist others to stepping into a more empowered dialogue with their own Soul and inner child, so that they can navigate the powerful awakening processes currently unfolding in our world. The inner child is our childlike aspect. It includes all that we learned and experienced as children, before puberty. This inner child is a semi-independent entity subordinate to the waking conscious mind, and it encompasses the most basic needs we have. One of these needs is for security and safety. Another might be the need for approval and love. Once the inner child wounds or misunderstandings are recognized and transformed through self-inquiry and self-compassion, and the primary relationship with Self is secure, a partnership of a higher calibre can be attracted to oneself and co-created to further our soul’s desire for a deeper union and growth with, and through another.
There are no perfect partners, nor perfect relationships. However, I feel Love itself is perfection, and we are being called to cooperate with Love. We are invited to be co-conspirators in reshaping our understanding of our own humanity and divine nature, so that we may envision and create the life experiences we deeply desire to have, and to see a world that is capable of living in harmony.
If you’d like to know more about how my Heart and Soul Relationship Coaching can help you to create and experience the true love you’ve always longed for, I will also be hosting an absolutely free webinar in early December that will address a lot more in this area. Its focus will be for single women and the Three Common Mistakes that keep them from finding their true love. Everyone is welcome to join me for an hour sharing about one of the most beautiful and inspiring parts of my spiritual journey and I'm passionate about sharing it.
Part 4 in this series will be coming along shortly, so please watch for it!
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